Today has definitely been a doozy, a trying test on my patience. My daughter’s attitude today, in school, proved that she’s not interested in what a general education has to offer. I haven’t been able to get her to take school seriously, and I’m struggling to figure out what else I can do, to shine some light on the subject.
I’ve tried relating to her, but do you know where that gets me? I get the ‘you’re so lame’ attitude. I’ve tried telling her about my experiences, but she only rolls her eyes at me. Why do kids have a hard time believing we were ever their age? I say “When I was your age…” and she’s all *annoyed sigh/full eye-roll combo*. Yeah, you know what I’m talking about. You get it to? I’ve even tried using her role-models and favorite actors and actresses for examples, but on one hand she doesn’t want to or can’t see passed who they play as characters, and on the other hand, it’s like she believes they were handed that life. Like their life is automatic or something.
Well, after sitting through two different classes with her where I was in the room, but not necessarily right next to her, she didn’t do so well on a couple of tests. I told her to write down the questions and the answers on paper, but as usual she didn’t because she hates doing it. It takes too much time, or more often “I forgot” is always her go to excuse. I sat next to her during her third class connect. The funny thing is she took notes and she wrote down the questions to her test and the answers, and she passed on the first try. (Hmm. Imagine that, mom was right.)
It’s amazing how much mothers sacrifice for their children, but that’s part of parenthood. It’s also knowing when to be your child’s friend and when to be their parent. For the most part, I’m Special Education provider/mother, and her friend, ONLY when she’s acting like a normal, fun-loving teenager I want her to be. I love watching her dance around her room to music by Dove Cameron, China Anne McClain, Sofia Carson, and Sabrina Carpenter. I love when I check in on her and she’s making something out of scrap fabric, or when she’s making jewelry like ‘Dizzy’ does in “Descendants 2”. I also love when she’s really trying in school–writing notes and taking screenshots using her tablet, writing down her test questions as told, and of course, when she’s getting decent to good grades. I’m not choosy. I’ll accept ‘C’s’ because ‘C’s’ are showing an effort.
The funny thing about motherhood is that we wouldn’t trade it for the world!